22 Sep Damage vs. Pure Gold
In the counseling session last night, the sister, after committing 100% to starting her journey of healing and self-care took a step back and asked very sorrowfully,
“But Sr. Bela, what about the years and years of damage, isn’t it going to affect my future?”
So, after taking her through a few more therapeutic processes to answer this question, I added – the example of a man who faced years and years of damage.
He was thrown into the well by his own brothers. Wasn’t it enough to inculcate fear in him and make him lose trust in relationships? Damage. He was sold in a market. Wasn’t it enough to ruin his confidence and sabotage his self-esteem? Damage. He was invited to do an immoral act by a woman. Wasn’t it enough to make him lose his chastity? Damage. He was imprisoned for many years. Wasn’t it enough to give him the liberty of playing victim for the rest of his life? Damage.
But what happened as a result of all these damages?
He stood confidently in the court of a King convincing the king to make him – what we can understand as – a Finance Minister. The years of damage made him – PURE GOLD.
Our beloved – Yusuf A.S.
After years of trauma upon trauma, he emerged the victor.
Lesson: Your past only does to you what you allow it to do. This is the reason Prophets never dwelt on their past and remained persistently positive – came what may.
The damages and trauma come in our lives to
1- erase our sins
2- elevate our ranks
3- teach us what happiness and an easy life could never teach us.
4- make us PURE GOLD.
Take lesson. Learn. Implement and move on.
The victor inside you is waiting for it’s awakening.
Please share if you feel it can help someone you love. – 12-9-2017 – Shared Sis Bela.