12 Jan Unique Paths
We need to keep in mind that each of us has a unique path, and that we all learn differently.
When we care about people, we want to save them from pain by offering them the benefit of our experience. Sometimes we feel like we know what is best for them. Sometimes, like when their safety is involved, we need to step in, but those times are rare.
More often we find ourselves becoming frustrated when our close friends or family members do not use our relationship insights or follow our dietary advice, and this is where we find our challenge. We may even find ourselves becoming angry when they choose another path. This strength of feeling is usually a sign that our motivations go beyond merely helping another to indicate that there is a lesson there for us.
First, we need to keep in mind that each of us is on our own path and that we all learn differently. When we trust Allah SWT, we trust His Wisdom.
Since we don’t want to deny them experiences of deep feeling that are essential steps in growth, , we can instead offer them our gentle, sincere counsel.
And after we have given our gift, it is time to release it with doaa, along with our expectations of them and their choices, with love.
Once that is done, we can remind ourselves that our relationships are mirrors that allow us to see ourselves more clearly in the reflection.
That is why it is easier for us to see solutions to other people’s problems than to see answers for our own.
We can also learn from these experiences when we ask ourselves if we ever do the same thing.