23 Nov Avoiding Comparison
She is married at the age of 21.
– Oh and I’m still single at 35.
She’s momming three kids.
– Oh and I am 10 years married and have none.
She is a manager in an international company.
– Oh, we graduated together and I am still jobless.
She travels the world.
– Oh and I have never been abroad.
Job title, income, grades, house, and Instagram and Facebook likes – the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite.
Where it is expected from you to be a doctor or engineer, get married by 21 and have mortgaged house and 3 kids by 26.
You’re not LATE.
You’re not EARLY.
Everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME.
Don’t be violent or mean to yourself for no reason other than just because your path is different from the person’s path beside you.
Be your own cheerleader.
Stop comparing yourself with others and instead refocus all that energy internally and focus on how you can become the best version of you.
Never feel ashamed or embarrassed just because someone pointed out to you that you “must” be married/or a mom/or slimmer by this time.
When you decide that the only one you have to please is Allah, it is empowering and motivating.
It is a fantastic blessed feeling shutting out the opinions of the outside world which is what I encourage each and every one of you do.
In Almighty Allah’s hands time is a tool. He makes all things beautiful in His time. You are very much ON TIME, and in your TIME ZONE where destiny is already written for you.