07 Aug When Grief Becomes a Path to Connection

Grief doesn’t ask for permission. It shows up quietly, or all at once. It can feel heavy, confusing, and sometimes endless. But in all its messiness, grief carries something sacred. It’s not just an emotional experience – it’s a spiritual one.

As a holistic wellness therapist and founder of The Art of Resonance, I’ve walked with many women through grief. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a dream, or even a version of themselves they no longer recognize, grief touches every part of us. And it often opens a door we didn’t expect: a deeper connection with our Loving Creator.

Grief Is More Than Sadness

We’re often taught to “get over” grief or to stay strong. But grief isn’t weakness. It’s love that has nowhere to go. It’s longing. And when we allow ourselves to feel it fully, it can lead us back to the One who understands our hearts better than anyone else.

• The tears we cry in private are seen by Allah.
• The ache we carry is not something to hide—it’s something to honour.
• The silence after loss isn’t empty: it’s space for reflection, for healing, and for connection.

Grief in the Qur’an

Allah doesn’t ignore grief in the Qur’an. He gives it space.

• Prophet Yaqub (AS) cried until he lost his sight, grieving for his son.
• Maryam (AS) felt deep pain and isolation before giving birth.
• The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ experienced deep sorrow during the year he lost Khadijah radiyallahu anhaa and Abu Talib.

These stories remind us that grief is part of the human experience. And it’s not something to be ashamed of.

What Grief Can Teach Us

When we stop fighting grief and start listening to it, it can guide us:

• It teaches us to trust Allah, even when things don’t make sense.
• It makes our du’as more honest and heartfelt.
• It brings us back to the present moment, reminding us of what truly matters.

How to Hold Space for Your Grief

In my sessions, I often encourage clients to:

• Speak their grief out loud. Naming it helps release the pressure of holding it in.
• Breathe through the pain. Not to fix it, but to soften around it.
• Use dhikr as a gentle anchor. Let remembrance calm the heart and body.

Grief doesn’t need to be rushed. It needs to be felt. And when we allow it to move through us, it can change us in quiet, powerful ways.

You’re Not Alone

If you’re grieving right now, please know: you’re not broken. You’re not failing. You’re feeling deeply, and that’s a sign of your heart’s strength.

Let your sadness be a doorway. Let it guide you back to our Loving Creator.